Then I was listening to a catholic radio station this morning and it so happened that the guest speaker is a Filipino priest Fr. Joe Patalinghug (is the family name rings so pinoy?). They were talking about what is the family are doing now a days. And they are commenting about many families now that don’t ate at the table together because parents are busy and so the kids.
I remember when I was a kid (even until now) we always do ate around the table as a family. I remember my father told us and it was a rule that before lunch and dinner time we should be at home, that means before 12 noon and 6 pm. If we came late there is always a consequences so as a kid we played like there is no tomorrow but if we hear the whistle of my mama or papa it is about time to say bye bye to friends. And we are so obedient at those times we knew that if we don’t abide the rules we will be spanked or reprimanded and we don’t like that either. Around the table my father will asked us about what is new and what happened to our day. We exchanged stories of the happenings for the day and father and mother will tell us stories and the things that happened to their day too. We were like that even until my parents are gone.
When I got here in US I noticed (through my husbands relatives) that they don’t ate around the table like what we used to do back in the Philippines. Kahit isda lang or bagoong ang ulam pero we are together around the table. They alternately ate or none at all. It was kind of weird to me because I am not used to that setting. I read in yahoo or aol about parenting and some forums that parents are complaining or having problems with their children specially when children reach in their teens. Back in Philippines even if we are teenager or young adult though we are not open to our parents about personal stuff but parents knew about what we do and where we go and who we go with. My parents got all the information we had on that day around the table while we are eating. And eating around the table is like a gathering that is not supposed to just be like ordinary it should be like everybody should look forward to.
Dito sa munting bahay namin kahit kami lang dalawa nang asawa ko I see to it that we eat together. It maybe a cereal or lugaw or beef steak or bagoong we seat around the table and enjoy and just have fun while eating. Life is just so simple we should not complicate it. Happy weekend!