Saturday, February 21, 2009

We ate at the table together...

Today is my step-daughters birthday and we are supposed to go to Bavarian Inn, Frankenmuth for a dinner with the family but the weather was so nasty it was snowing like no stopping. And while we are checking the weather we heard that in I-94 50 cars filed up!! That is not a good sign so hubby called everyone postponing the birthday dinner.

Then I was listening to a catholic radio station this morning and it so happened that the guest speaker is a Filipino priest Fr. Joe Patalinghug (is the family name rings so pinoy?). They were talking about what is the family are doing now a days. And they are commenting about many families now that don’t ate at the table together because parents are busy and so the kids.
I remember when I was a kid (even until now) we always do ate around the table as a family. I remember my father told us and it was a rule that before lunch and dinner time we should be at home, that means before 12 noon and 6 pm. If we came late there is always a consequences so as a kid we played like there is no tomorrow but if we hear the whistle of my mama or papa it is about time to say bye bye to friends. And we are so obedient at those times we knew that if we don’t abide the rules we will be spanked or reprimanded and we don’t like that either. Around the table my father will asked us about what is new and what happened to our day. We exchanged stories of the happenings for the day and father and mother will tell us stories and the things that happened to their day too. We were like that even until my parents are gone.
When I got here in US I noticed (through my husbands relatives) that they don’t ate around the table like what we used to do back in the Philippines. Kahit isda lang or bagoong ang ulam pero we are together around the table. They alternately ate or none at all. It was kind of weird to me because I am not used to that setting. I read in yahoo or aol about parenting and some forums that parents are complaining or having problems with their children specially when children reach in their teens. Back in Philippines even if we are teenager or young adult though we are not open to our parents about personal stuff but parents knew about what we do and where we go and who we go with. My parents got all the information we had on that day around the table while we are eating. And eating around the table is like a gathering that is not supposed to just be like ordinary it should be like everybody should look forward to.

Dito sa munting bahay namin kahit kami lang dalawa nang asawa ko I see to it that we eat together. It maybe a cereal or lugaw or beef steak or bagoong we seat around the table and enjoy and just have fun while eating. Life is just so simple we should not complicate it. Happy weekend!

15 comments:

marykay said...

Kim dear, I'm the same way when I am young. I have to be home to eat at a certain time or else. But nowadays, and I admit my family is the same sometimes esp now that I'm in school, that we eat at different times. however, my kids are always with a parent like my hubby or even their papa. they are always eating with an adult so they are still asked how is their day, did they have a good day, did they have exciting/funny/interesting news to share from school..it keeps lines of communication open, which is important nowadays..

Manang Kim said...

Hi kay, parents in this generation seems to do a lot of hard work to maintain an open line communication with the kids. Thanks for dropping by it's been a long time. I do appreciate it so much because I know your so busy in school. Thanks talaga.

Stev&Emz said...

hi Kim! reading your post takes me in time when I was a kid, we do the same thing also, eat together specially dinner. if we hear the 6pm siren from Coca Cola plant that means its time to go home, light the altar, pray the angelus, and wait for dinner around 7pm. but when we reach college.. things starting to change, cause of night classes and dining out with friends. =)

dhemz said...

Very well said TKim...nakakarelate din ako sayo...hehhe...pero pag nay family gatherings dire sa table magkaon..unya kay daghan man kaayo family ni hubby d man mosigo sa isa ka table bisan asa nalang dayon...hehhehe!

Sakto jud ka te..bisan ginamos ug bulad...sa lamisa jud magkaon...mao jud nga kami as a family...mao jud na amo ginatudlo kay Akesha....para sad modako sya makuha na nya nga values....lisod na man jud ang generation today....;0


Salamat tuod sa imo comments te ha...much appreciated..nalingaw ko sa imong mga chicka..sorry karon rako ka reply kay busy ang beauty nu lola pag weekend...hehhehe!

Mao ba te? nagkarate sad diay ka sa una? Ako I took that for 1 sem here in the US...kapuyan man ko uy kay grabi amo warm up...2 miles dagan, tapos climb up the hill na pina zigzag...tapos push ups pa dayon...first time nako nga mura kog maamatay...hhahha...mabuang ko....:)

Mala lose jud sya ug weight...nawala akong baby fat kadyot...karon kay nag undang ko..as in grabi nga bilbil...hehhehe!

Kami sad te..mahilig sad mi ug laroy-laroy...hehheh! ako sad gusto nako malibot buong states...pag naa lang gai kwarta...kwarta raman kulang...hhehhe! pila nasad ka states imong naanhaan teKim?

Sunora ra diay ta dre te no? Ako 4 years palang ko dire...hehhe.hehhe...sige lang te basin diay in time...magkababy din kayo...dba? who knows...mao jud te...mao jud na akong fulfillment sa buong buhay ko...abi gani nako sa una ug d ko makaanak kay I have irregular PMS....pasalamat ayo ko kay Lord kay namilagrohan ko nya...:) Am sure te...ikaw din soon...good luck!

When man imo last nga visit sa pinas diay te? Amo kay 2007...tapos amo baby ato 14 months..lisod kaayo travel pag nay gamay uy..hehhe!

Sige te..murag grabi na jud ning akong hinabi sa imo...hehhehe...thanks sa time te ha...au-au dha permi!

Clarissa said...

Kahit nga sa amin,Te ganun din!Kahit na maliit lang ang mesa namin(a coffe table size,Japanese style)at kahit na ano ang nasa mesa,basta salo-salo ang pamilya,masaya!Naku,kung di sa mesa kumakain ang mga chikiting ko,humanda sila sa Daddy nila!lol!

Umma said...

Hala.. grabe ang chika ninyo diha ni sistah Dhemz ha? hahahah..

I guess its the culture.. bec here in US they are brought independently unlike sa pinas na closely knit man jud ang family.

S-H-Y said...

DAH kalimtan ang panuhot oi bsta ka kiat lng sa snow heheheh..thanks for the comment, i hope visit ka uli sa ako payag!

Manang Kim said...

Hi Emz, buti ka pa you had that experienced in college. Ako ala talagang dine out with friends no money eh. But your right when we were in college nag-iba din kasi I have classes at night but I remember even if I ate late my mother is in the table with me while I am eating hehe.

Manang Kim said...

Hi dhemz, kita man siguro sa pinas mao gyud atong na mat-an ug buot nga mag dungan gyud ug pangaon maski ginamos or law-oy atong sud-an basta kay kita gyud tanan naa sa kan-anan mag alirong apil pa gani iring ug iro hehe. Ako husband daghan pod ni sila kaayo ug party di na gud masulod sa table pero sa akong na observe sa ilang tag-sa2x ka mga balay lahi ra gyud sila. Very much appreciated sa imong pag drop pod sa akong balay. Yes sa college ko PE4 one sem ra pod to karate akong gikuha 2 ra mi ka babaye nag kuha ug karate gyud hehe. In our PE4 two choices man karate or modelling akong gikuha ang karate kay kausa ra mo palit ug uniform sa karate while and modelling kada exam nila mag buy gyud ug new dress to model eh waz man mi extra kuarta hehe. Grabe gyud maka lose hinoon ug weight ning karate grabe 95 lbs lang ko sa una. Naka-kita bitaw akong husband sa akong Diploma naka hang sa wall sa among balay wala gyud siya kaila hinoon nako hehe perte man ko kaniwang oi. DAghan na pod ko states nga na-adtoan ang uban ning labay lang. Mostly sa akong naadtoan dire sa east part. Chicago,Indiana,Ohio,Kentucky,Florida,Georgia,West virginia labay mi sa North and south Carolina, Virginia. Nag adto mi last year sa Canada. Ingon akong bana mas nice pa suroyan ang 50 states than go to Europe daw hehe. Last year akong last nga uli ka upat to nako nga uli since naka-abot ko dire.

Manang Kim said...

Hi clare, I think basta maski sa chinese or korean ganun talaga we seat around the table kahit lugaw nga lang kaya we are close to our family eh.

Manang Kim said...

Hi Umz, aguy perte gyud chikka namo ni dhemz hehe. Bitaw mao pod na ilang custom dire pero kay na sagolan na biya sila dire ug mga asiano like us siguro makita pod nila nga nice ug mag eat together kumustahan lang.

Manang Kim said...

Hi s-h-y, sureness I will visit your blog again.

Manang Kim said...

Hi s-h-y, sureness I will visit your blog again.

Mom of Four said...

Manang Kim, sometimes,life become different when you go to a foreign place. We used to eat together around the table as well when I was little. YOu don't sit on the table, you won't have no dinner, hehehe!
Now, it doesn't happen all the time that we all sit together, unless we got some KFC or something from the restaurant. The kids would eat when they are hungry, and it's not very often that my hubby and I eat together. My mom watches the baby while I eat and vice versa.
Have fun and have a great day!!!

Manang Kim said...

hi mommy liz, korek ka dyan. the thing that is nice with filipinos is that we adjust fast to new things. KFC is my favorite ayay nagutom na ako hehe.